LIAR LIAR... pants on fire

My mother always said everything you do in the dark WILL come to the light. 

I've never understood the purpose of a lie?!  Especially if the liar can't keep up with their own story.  I mean, if you're going to do anything, be great at it.  So if you're going to be a liar then doggone it be the best liar there ever was!  At least make the lies believable.  Lies don't help a situation, it only makes the situation worse.  I can handle the truth because when I have all the information, I can strategize, work around it, & cope even though it may be difficult.  I appreciate when the care & consideration has been given to me by telling the truth so that I'm not blindly thrown into an awkward situation.  A lie doesn't allow me (the receiver of the lie) to fully prepare for the fall out that is going to come as a result.  And the worst thing is to learn of being told a lie on my own when the liar had ample opportunity to come correct.  Probably my biggest pet peeve and the easiest way to piss me off ... look me in my eyes and tell me a lie.  It is shameful how much we hide behind lies or create our own realities.  Some of us lie so much that we convince ourselves that the lies are the truth.  Don't waste time & expend energy on something so unnecessary.  It's so much easier to just tell the truth.  Puhleeze... just tell the truth!  The saying is in fact true (pun intended)... "the truth shall set you free".  So go ahead... FREE YOURSELF!

that's just my 2 cents... for what its worth...

The Dating Game

This whole dating thing is so new to me.  I was in a relationship with my son's father for 6 years (off and on) and after FINALLY deciding to call it quits, I find myself trying to understand the crazy world of dating.  I need a freaking tutorial on how its all supposed to work.  I have people trying to explain "the rules" to me... like having to wait 4.7 days to respond to an email, at least 20-30 minutes to respond to a text message and a day or two to return a phone call; all so that I don't seem too available (even though I am single which means that I am available).  If I'm asked to meet at a coffee shop then that's an "interview" and I'm not allowed to ask a guy out on a date because I need to be the one being chased.  Granted, I guess these are all basic rules that everyone knows & I've even played this game before myself.  However, I'm much older now & while I'm not concerned at all about my biological clock ticking since I've already done my part to populate the Earth once over, I feel that life is short so why waste time playing by the rules of the dating game??!!  If I am digging you & vice versa, its simple... lets talk, get to know one another, hang out or whatever. 

Now don't get it twisted, I'm not trying to sex you or be some type of on call freak (that's not how I roll), take you home to meet the parents, or have my son calling you Daddy (he already has one of those).  I am happily single in that I'd rather be alone than to be in poor company.  Besides that, I'm not going to settle nor am I desperate.  I enjoy my life & know that I am whole & complete all by myself and I definitely don't need a man to validate me.  But if I'm honest, I'm ready to spend time with quality men and in the process hopefully meet the one who God has intended just  for me :)  

That's my 2 cents... for what it's worth...

wut doo dis sey?

As everyone who knows me knows, I love words.  I love how words are put together to describe and/or form something beautiful.  So it bothers me when so many of our young people (and even those not so young) spell things the way they sound and use improper English.  It then takes me 15 minutes to read & interpret a Facebook status update... *sigh*.  Makes me wonder, has technology failed us?  We live in a world of text messages, blackberrys, Iphones, Facebook, and other advanced technological devices & applications that cause us or allow us to communicate in a hurry and in doing so, we have created a whole new language.  Don't get me wrong, I get it because honestly I'm guilty myself when texting or on instant messenger but really people, do we have to write this way on our status updates, emails, and even school assignments???!!!  The line has to be drawn somewhere.  For the love of the dictionary, the English language, and for an appreciation of the simpler & finer things in life, PLEASE take a moment to write a complete sentence free of grammatical errors that the average person can read and understand without the presence of an interpreter!  And for goodness sake use spellcheck, it only takes a minute.  u no wut uhm sey-n? 

that's just my 2 cents... for what it's worth

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